Choose your role

THE RIGHT SUPPORT STARTS WITH WHERE YOU STAND.

Pick the role closest to you. You can use more than one path, and nobody needs to disclose private medical information to participate.

I live with Crohn’s

Put yourself at the center without having to explain everything.

Operating principle: You control the invitation, the information, and the answer.

Start here: Choose one person and name one kind of support that would reduce work today.

Stay close without turning love into control or constant problem-solving.

Operating principle: Ask whether the moment needs listening, practical help, space, or professional care.

Start here: Ask one clean question: “Would listening, help, or space feel best right now?”

Believe what you are told, protect privacy, and make help specific.

Operating principle: Family access does not create automatic access to medical details.

Start here: Offer one concrete action with an easy no: a meal pickup, ride, errand, or quiet visit.

Keep showing up when plans change and the right words are hard to find.

Operating principle: Presence counts more than advice.

Start here: Send a pressure-free message that requires no update and no immediate reply.

Create practical flexibility without demanding a diagnosis story.

Operating principle: Ask what access or communication would help—not for private medical details.

Start here: Move the conversation to a private setting and ask what would make the next step workable.

Use your voice, time, or platform without speaking over people with Crohn’s.

Operating principle: Amplify credible resources and consent-led voices; do not manufacture expertise.

Start here: Share the Show Up Once action with its boundaries intact and without adding a miracle claim.